Thursday, February 14, 2008

Hallmark Holiday!

I got nothing for my DH and I doubt he got me anything. But happy Valentine's Day to everyone.

I wonder when do you stop buying gifts for valentine's day? Should DH and I be concerned that we don't even have kids and we've already stop the "fires" of passion and gift giving? Or is it an overly commercialized holiday? Some call it a Hallmark holiday.

We never go out to eat either in Valentine's day. The service is bad, food is cold, and reservations need to be had so early it's impossible to get. So we end up usually going out as a pseudo -date either the weekend before or after. It's possible we'll go out this weekend for a "date" but I'm not sure.

Occasionally we'll buy fancy food (scallops or lobster) and make a romantic dinner. Just writing this makes me think maybe I should. But I'm feeling lazy and cheap. So my DH can eat roast chicken instead.

Do you still buy valentine's day gifts for your SO? If you do, and have a cheap idea, please, maybe I'll use it. I could buy into the holiday and celebrate. I might feel less guilty. Although my DH has class and won't be home till almost 10 pm tonight anyway so I guess we'll just go to bed.

7 comments:

Heather Allen said...

It doesn't need to be food and it doesn't need to be expensive. Do you have an "our song"? Have it play when he comes in. Have your dinner be a carpet-picnic, by candlelight.
If he's somewhere he has a computer send him a message on http://paperboy.nl (fab and very cute). Run a bath and scrawl SHMILY in the steam on the mirror and read this story to him... http://www.ntu.edu.sg/home/hblim/passages/shmily.htm
while you share the bath...
Wow, I enjoyed that, hope you do.

Heather Allen said...

It doesn't need to be food and it doesn't need to be expensive. Do you have an "our song"? Have it play when DH comes in. Have your dinner be a carpet-picnic - by candlelight.
If DH works somewhere there's a computer send a message on http://paperboy.nl (fab and very cute). Run a bath and scrawl SHMILY in the steam on the mirror and read this story together... http://www.ntu.edu.sg/home/hblim/passages/shmily.htm
while you share the bath...
Wow, I enjoyed that, hope you do.

frugal zeitgeist said...

Well, we've only been seeing each other for ten months and we both like exchanging modest gifts. I'm as sick as a dog right now and he's coming down with it, so we've postponed Valentine's Day for a couple of weeks. We'll probably just go out to dinner and forget the gift part, though - he knows I don't like clutter and we're both trying to stay away from sweets.

Dawn said...

You're right, it is a bit of a "Hallmark" holiday...
Hubby and I have been married for 27 years and have never put a dramatic focus on Valentine's Day.
But, we do take the time to do something little or special for each other on the day.
I think it is nice to have a reason to make a day "stick" out from all the others.
When you are working hard, the days can start to all blend together if we don't make some of them special. For example, I might bake him something special. Or buy him something little and special that he might like. (He collects Mattel Hot Wheels... so that is a super low-cost little gift item, that I can pick-up for him).
He loves to get me cards. He is actually really good at picking out romantic and sweet cards. This year he went "crazy... Heee Heee..." and got me a little gift bag from Bath and Body Works of goodies. He really surprised me.
Long story short - my advice is you don't have to drop a bunch of cash, but use the day as a reason to be extra kind to the one you love!

Anonymous said...

We've been together 32 years and still celebrate Valentine's Day. We give cards to each other (including ones from the cats). DH also gave me roses and Godiva chocolates today. You have to keep the romance going no matter how long you've been together.

Barb1954

Jim said...

I still celebrate V-day and don't see anything wrong with buying my wife flowers and going out to dinner. We don't need to feel guilty for celebrating a holiday where we appreciate each other by people who do not celebrate it and advocate not celebrating it because of Hallmark. I have co-workers who don't agree with the holiday at all. It may be true that you save some money but is it truly worth it in the end?

Keep in mind Valentines Day is based on a pagan holiday for St. Valentine and has a lot to do with fertility. Consider Easter and the symbolism with the bunny and eggs, another fertility reference. Halloween is also a pagan based holiday for harvest of the crop, again fertility reference. Society has turned these days into a marketing frenzy and I think people forget the actual meaning of what the holidays represent.

Living Almost Large said...

I'd just rather go out before or after because the food and service is better! I hate paying good money for food that sucks and service that is rushed. Which it is. Other than that I'm okay with flowers and candy and dinner out.

Although I'm more into fun stuff.