What's it' like being single in your 20s? It's a time when you are getting established, working your first real job, and making real money. However you are also encountering your first real expenses like paying back the student loan, rent, utilities, car insurance/car payment, setting up your own place, etc. None of these adult behaviors are cheap.
However, an important area of your life is meeting the right person. And in meeting the right person having a courtship, planning a future together, and eventually entering coupledom.
But the courtship proces is a long and difficult one. Because the average age of women and men marrying has increased it appears that people are becoming more selective and careful during the dating process. But because of this, the dating process has also become much longer and more intensive. People can spend years dating before marriage.
So what's expected in your 20s? Well the problem is that you have to be able to go out to eat dinner. At least once. Maybe not the first date but at least maybe your second or third dates. And if you are the man you should treat (so much for feminism). Then as the women you might pay for drinks. And then it follows from there. Unfortunately couples also go out to pretty nice restaurants, not just fast food. So it costs more than in college. Apparently it's to establish how well off your are.
All these extra financial expectations are hard to meet in your 20s. So what should you do? Should you try to keep up? Or give up entirely? I've heard from all my single friends and the thing is, even when you aren't dating, you're pretty lonely at home so you often go out and eat with other singles or couples just to be kept company. You also participate in more activities to keep not be alone. So singledom is expensive.
So pondering my friends comments, told them, well you're investing in your mental sanity. You can either go out and have fun and try to find "the one" or sit at home popping anti-depressants. Sure it costs money to but if you aren't happy, sitting there counting every penny saved with no one or even people to share it with is lonely.
I feel their pain. Of course marrieds in the 20s...well we have a whole other set of problems...