Is it tacky to register for cash for your wedding? This question was raised on the WIR message board. My answer "Of course." It is super tacky to register for only cash.
Yes, the couple might be able to use cash for a house downpayment or honeymoon. Or they already have enough things for the house. But honestly charging your guests to come to your wedding/reception seems to me in poor taste and tacky.
A woman wanted to know if it were rude to register online for cash only gifts. Using a site such as MyRegistry.com. Answer from most people was yes. Especially since most people said it's the perogative of the attendee to give a gift.
My main argument against such a registry is there often is a minimum set, such as $25 or $50. What happens if the person doesn't want to "gift" you with $25 or $50? Then perhaps they should give the happy couple nothing.
But what if the happy couple complain? My answer, why did you invite those people in the first place? If you want someone at the wedding whether or not they give you an expensive gift or cash, shouldn't their presence be enough?
Since when is it expected for a couple to get a wedding present? And to set a minimum $ amount? Yes it's nice to bring a gift, but if you only invite people for the gifts they bring, well why are you inviting them.
I can't believe the levels now couples are showing their greed about their wedding presents. You can be sure if I'm invited to a wedding where I am expected to make a cash donation, I'll still buy them a gift and for the dollar value I feel is appropriate. Not a set minimum amount. And this is extremely against both DH and I cultural/background inclinations where we give $$ (cash). And the present won't be as generous either because I'll feel it's forced giving. Typically if I know the couple reasonably well I'll give $50-100. Depends on lunch/dinner and location of the wedding, usually enough to cover our meals. However to be told I need to give $X bothers me a lot.
What do you think? Have people take wedding registries to a new level of tackiness by specifically asking for cash? And by setting a minimum gift amount?